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“To add value to others, one must first value others.”
— John Maxwell
 

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The Top Five Regrets of the Dying, by Bronnie Ware, is a deeply personal and introspective book based on her experiences as a palliative care nurse. Through anecdotes and reflections on the dying words of her patients, Ware unveils five recurring regrets that surfaced:

  1. I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me. This was the most universal regret. Many patients expressed feelings of suppressing their desires and dreams to conform to societal or familial expectations. The book emphasizes the importance of self-discovery and authenticity.

  2. I wish I hadn't worked so hard. This regret was particularly prevalent among men. Ware points out how focusing solely on career goals can lead to neglecting relationships, personal growth, and simple joys. The book advocates for a healthy balance between work and personal well-being.

  3. I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings. Many patients shared stories of holding back their true emotions to avoid conflict or upsetting others. This often led to resentment and unfulfilled relationships. The book encourages honest communication and emotional expression.

  4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends. As people reach the end of their lives, the value of close friendships becomes increasingly clear. Many regretted letting relationships fade due to neglect or prioritizing other commitments. The book highlights the importance of nurturing friendships throughout life.

  5. I wish that I had let myself be happier. Surprisingly, some patients expressed a sense of having settled for mediocrity or not fully embracing opportunities for joy. The book encourages self-reflection on what truly brings happiness and living life to the fullest.

While Ware acknowledges that individual experiences vary, she believes these recurring regrets offer valuable insights for living a more fulfilling and meaningful life. The book serves as a call to action, urging readers to confront their own fears and priorities, prioritize authentic living, and cherish relationships.

As we reflect on what’s truly important to us — what we value most — how does our time expended align with what we value? We can all relate — busy days, weeks, and months can easily move us away from what we value most. It’s not a judgment on any one of us; it’s simply the reality of what seems to be most urgent and requires our attention. That said, we may benefit from taking time to reflect and make the necessary course corrections. And as leaders, we can help those within our sphere of influence do the same. Are we coaching others to realize their strengths and opportunities for development, to find time to get restored, to constructively use their emotional intelligence to build stronger relationships, to be part of a meaningful community of support, and to discover fulfillment in their work? As leaders, we have the privilege to help make this possible.

Reference:
Ware, B. (2011). The top five regrets of the dying: A life transformed by the dearly departing. Hay House.

 

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